Why Does My Dog Sleep On Me and Not My Husband?

If your dog is allowed up on the couch, or even in your bed, then you will know that joyous feeling that you get in your chest when they rest their head on your lap and go to sleep. If your dog is a smaller breed (or a larger breed for that matter), you might also get that joyous feeling when they curl up on top of you and settle into a peaceful slumber.

Should you share your dog with a partner, then you will probably already be in competition over who is your dog’s favorite. Every time your dog rests their head on you, you probably celebrate a silent victory, while your partner seethes in jealousy.

Why does my Dog Sleep on Me and Not my Husband

BBut beneath this competition, you might actually be wondering why your dog sleeps on you, but not on your husband. In this guide, we’ll be answering this question, so to find out more, keep on reading.

Do Dogs Pick A Favorite Person?

Yes, dogs do pick a favorite person. But, this favorite person is not set in stone, and it changes every day. This is because dogs pick up heavily on energy levels, and will pick their favorite based on the person who has the same vibe as them on that day.

Is This Ever an Issue?

Most of the time, it isn’t. The only time that you should worry about your dog choosing a favorite is if they become scared of you or your partner.

But, most of the time, as long as your dog is well socialized with your household and others, then picking a favorite will not be a problem.

Why does my Dog Sleep on Me and Not on My Husband?

There is a long list of possible reasons why your dog might choose to sleep on you and not your husband. And it isn’t necessarily because your dog prefers you. So, let’s take a look at some possible reasons for this.

Stronger Bond

The first reason why your dog might choose to sleep on you is because they have a stronger bond with you. This is likely if your dog belonged to you first.

If this is the case, then you likely have years that you have spent with just you and your dog. So it is understandable that they might feel a stronger bond with you, than your partner, and as a result they might prefer to sleep on you.

Uncertainty

Linking to the reason we have just looked at, your dog might also choose to sleep with you over your partner if they are uncertain of them.

This could happen if your partner regularly works away from home, or if they spend a lot of time away from you and your dog. In order to form a bond, dogs have to spend time with people. So, if your partner isn’t spending time with your dog, this could be the reason they do not sleep on them.

Sleeping Positions

But, the reason for this behavior doesn’t have to be that deep. In fact, your dog might choose to sleep with you over your husband because they prefer the way that you sleep.

Just like humans, dogs want comfort when they go to sleep. So, if your partner’s sleep positions are incompatible with the way that your dog likes to sleep, they might choose to sleep on you instead.

Sleep Cycles

Likewise, dogs also tend to sleep on people who share similar sleeping cycles to them. So, if you decide to go to bed when your dog is also feeling tired, they might choose to sleep on you instead of your partner.

Similarly, if your partner works unusual hours at work, for example night shifts, your dog might choose to sleep on you instead. Simply because you are sleeping when they want to sleep.

Smell

Dogs have an excellent sense of smell, and it is a lot more advanced than the sense of smell that humans have. For this reason, your dog might choose to sleep on you, over your husband, because they prefer the way that you smell.

This could be down to your natural scent, or artificial smells such as shampoo, conditioner, or perfume. Your dog might also choose to sleep on you if they dislike the smell of your husband, so this could explain this behavior.

Personal Preference

As we have said, dogs pick a favorite person, but this person changes from day to day. Things that cause this to change, include who fed your dog and who has given them the most fuss and attention.

So, if on one particular day, you have made a massive fuss of your dog, and given them lots of treats, they might choose to sleep on you because on that day, you are their favorite.

Personality

Dogs pick up on energy levels, but they also pick up on personalities. Scientific studies have found that dogs tend to look like their owners, and they tend to share similar personalities too.

Out of you and your partner, your dog will generally choose the person who shares a personality similar to theirs. So, if your dog chooses to sleep on you, it is because you are the most similar to them, out of you and your husband.

Primary Caregiver

But, a lot of the time, your dog will choose to sleep on you because you are their primary caregiver. Dogs are incredibly loving, but they do designate a lot of that love to the person who feeds them.

So, if you are the member of the house who feeds your dog, as well as the person who takes them out for walks and plays with them, then it is likely that they will choose to sleep on you. Especially if your husband does not do these things with them.

What does it mean if your Dog chooses to Sleep on You?

There are lots of reasons why your dog might sleep on you, but the main reason why they choose to do this is that they want affection. Dogs aren’t stupid, and they know where to go if they want fuss and attention. So, if your dog chooses to sleep on you, it is likely because they are getting something out of this, as well as you.

Should I Stop my Dog from Sleeping on Me?

Most of the time, there is no need to stop this behavior. There are only 2 reasons why you should stop this. One being if your dog is making sleeping uncomfortable for you, or your husband. The other being if your dog is guarding you aggressively, and turning on your partner as a result. But most of the time, it won’t be an issue.

Can my Dog still Sleep with Me when I’m Pregnant?

Dogs tend to be drawn towards pregnant people, and that is because they know that a new pack member is on the way. So, your dog might become incredibly clingy at this time. As long as your dog is not being aggressive, then there is no need to stop them from sleeping with you.

How to Encourage Your Dog to Sleep with your Husband

If your partner is jealous of the amount of time your dog spends sleeping on you, then you will likely be looking for ways to encourage your dog to sleep on them instead. Here are some of the best methods to use.

Correct the Scent Problem

One of the main things that will cause your dog not to sleep on your husband is his scent. Most of the time, it will be something artificial (body wash, aftershave, etc.) that leads your dog to dislike your husband’s scent.

So, get your partner to switch products, or simply apply less, and this should fix the issue instantly. If your dog still doesn’t seem interested in sleeping on your partner, try applying a smell that dogs like to your husband, such as lavender spray. This should encourage your dog to sleep on your husband.

Show More Love and Affection

As well as this, your husband should encourage your dog to sleep on him by showing them more love and affection.

For dogs, one of the best rewards is affection, so if your husband makes a massive fuss of your dog, and spends more time with them, this should strengthen their bond. If your partner does this, while also picking up some caregiving responsibilities, this could encourage your dog to sleep on them instead.

Speak to a Behaviorist

Most of the time, you will easily be able to encourage your dog to sleep on your husband by using the methods above. But, sometimes they will not work.

Choosing not to sleep on your husband is one thing, but if this issue is caused by fear, then that is a completely different ballgame. This is most common in rescue dogs, who generally tend to be very fearful of men.

So, if your dog appears to be scared of your husband, for no apparent reason, then it is best to speak to a behaviorist to solve this problem.

Summary

In short, there are lots of reasons why your dog might choose to sleep on you and not your husband. Most of the time, this is because of something as simple as smell or the position in which you sleep.

In this guide, we’ve taken a look at these reasons, and how to encourage your dog to sleep on your husband. So to find out more, check out the guide above.